We’re all self-made.
Some have made their lives into an adventure movie…and created a true masterpiece.
A good number have made their lives on a bedrock of safe choices…and settled for mediocrity.
Others through their choices have made their lives into a Greek Tragedy…and pay dearly for it.
Yes, we’re all self-made…it’s just that only the successful ones are willing to admit it.
What about you?
What have you made with this one life you’ve been gifted?
What have you become?
Who have you become?
Are you happy with your creation?
Are you in need of some course corrections?
Being a self-made successful man or women requires that you build your life on a foundation of self-reliance.
And, if self-reliance means a strong belief in your own ability to achieve success and happiness on your own terms, than dependency is an absence of such belief.
Until you learn to stand on your own two-feet and take full responsibility for yourself, your results, and your future… you’ll never fully know just how strong, capable and awesome you really are.
Self-reliance is a virtue in need of serious cultivation as it’s all about independence, personal power, authenticity, pride and freedom from the control or influence of outside parties.
It’s a simple concept that encourages each one of us to take responsibility for our own needs—physical, emotional, spiritual, social, and economic.
To put it more directly, it’s an understanding that nobody owes you anything…and that the only thing you are entitled to in life is your own opinion. Period.
Yet, even though self-reliance is such a critical life skill, why on earth is society filled with so many wimpy, excuse making, responsibility dodging, entitlement driven people looking for a handout?
The answer like many others can be found in both government and in the home.
Many programs throughout the world have been set up by well-meaning individuals and institutions to aid those who are in need.
However, many of these programs are designed with the shortsighted objective of “helping people,” as opposed to “helping people help themselves.”
As a result, the beneficiaries of these handouts or helping hands more than often become dependent upon them, and rather than inspiring self-reliance, they often accomplish just the opposite.
To bottom line this point…unnecessary dependence upon others is a false sense of security that only serves to make you weak and highly vulnerable. It’s the ultimate act of self-betrayal, as your talents NEVER see the light of day.
By shielding yourself from independence, from challenges, failure, unpleasant tasks and adversity, you are actually doing more harm than good.
So how do you do it? How do you become more self-reliant, how do enjoy more freedom and control in your life…how do you become a self-made success?
(right about now would be a good time to bail if you prefer someone else to do your pushups).
YOU MUST BECOME YOUR OWN HERO
Here are some of the many qualities that you can, must and will develop by acting out the hero role in your own life and becoming self-reliant.
Determined, compassionate, focused, powerful, strong, bold, nurturing, persevering, loving, idealistic, inspiring, giving, disciplined, committed, responsible, patient, honest, caring, humble, open, passionate and courageous.
To become self-reliant…to truly become a self-made man or woman you MUST embrace the power of unconditional responsibility.
Why? Because it’s foolish for any of us to ask for or to accept from others for that which we have the power to obtain themselves.
It pains me to think how easily people capitulate their dreams to badges, titles, and manipulative institutions.
Honorable work is the most foundational source of happiness, self-worth and prosperity. Only the weak, insecure and confidence deprived strive for security and dependency on others. Therefore, you must work on your ability to drive results.
Your greatest asset and primary sense of security freedom extends from your ability to produce results. Your ability to convert ideas into innovations, problems into solutions, and goals into results quickly is without a doubt an acquired trait, a learned skill that you can, will and must exploit to your advantage.
It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are. It takes character to do the right thing. It takes tenacity to make your dreams come true…and if you’re not the hero of your own story, than you’re missing the whole point of your humanity.
To truly be a self-made success story…you must become your own hero.
Gary Ryan Blair
P.S. I created the 100 Day Challenge to teach you how to become your own hero.
To learn how to live a bigger, bolder and far more beautiful life…be sure to snag a copy of this Unleash Your Greatness Manifesto.